So you’ve finished your education, moved out, and now you’re thinking about settling down and starting a family. That was pretty quick, wasn’t it? Although having kids is wonderful, but it’s not something that can be taken lightly. You need to make sure you’re ready for it before you just jump in. Here are a few things to think about before you start a family.
One of the most important things to think about is how your spouse or partner feels about the idea. Finding this out might take some doing if you’re crazy about the idea of having kids. Make sure you both talk openly and honestly about having kids. Sometimes, couples can talk about starting a family and treat it as a given, without thinking about the reality of it. Make sure you’re both certain that you want to have a child, and take on all the sacrifices that comes with one. A little nervousness and hesitation is natural, but talking it all through is important. If one partner is dead set on starting a family, and the other isn’t, you’re only asking for trouble.
The next important thing to consider is if you’re ready financially. For a middle-income family, you can expect to spend over £210,000 on your child from their birth to age eighteen. When you consider all the various extras, the figure is even higher. When you have a kid, you’ll probably need to move to a larger house, possibly get a new car, and may want to move to a more suburban area. You also need to consider the extra insurance you’ll need to pay. Once you have a child, life insurance is more or less a given, so search for some through a comparison site like Gocompare.com. Having a child may mean that one of you will have to quit your job, or put your career on temporary hold. Make sure you consider all of this before coming to a decision.
It might not be pleasant, but consider the strain your child will have on your relationship with your spouse. I think everyone should experience having children. However, being a good parent takes a lot of hard work. You and your partner aren’t going to be alone as often as you used to be. You’re both going to feel very thinly stretched when you first bring your baby home. When you have a child, your relationship with your partner needs to become priority number one. If you know you’re a little stubborn when it comes to your opinions, then check yourself and make an effort to avoid arguments. Believe me, there’s going to be plenty to argue about! Consider what your relationship is like now, and whether or not adding more strain i9s a good idea. You can find a great article on this at Parents.com.
Be sure to consider these factors carefully before taking the plunge. It could save you all kinds of stress. Becoming a father is quite the ride, so make sure you come prepared for it!